Are you a mom? Do you have a daughter? Please tell her…
Please tell her she is beautiful just as she is.
Please tell her she should never attempt to change herself or her body to try and look more…. “whatever”
Please tell her she is beautiful inside and out just the way she is.
Please tell her that no matter what society throws her way, she is not wrong. Her body is not wrong. There is no wrong way to have a body.
Please tell her she should NEVER strive to look like somebody else. She should only strive to be the best her she can be.
Please tell her it’s okay to focus on something other than her outward appearance.
Please tell her there is more to who she is than what she looks like.
Tell her. Please, please tell her.
I grew up believing that I was not okay. I grew up believing that I would be beautiful only IF I achieved becoming a model. So I starved myself, destroyed my metabolism and started what has become a lifelong struggle with my weight.
If somebody had just told me what a stupid idea it was to try and change my naturally beautiful body for a paycheck and a few pretty photos, my life would be very different now. If somebody had just taken me by the shoulders, looked me in the eye and said, “You’re beautiful. Don’t change a thing.”, I would most likely not be having the struggles I fight now every single day.
As girls and women, we need to hear that we are beautiful. But beauty is so much more than our body. It really doesn’t matter what we look like. We are all beautiful simply because we are women, and that makes us naturally strong and resilient. Women rock. We make entire human beings with our bodies. We endure pain and struggle and frustrations that make us stronger human beings each and every day, simply because we are women. And there is so much beauty in that alone.
Tell her. Make her believe it because it’s true. Give her the tools to feel self confident for life, even if she has a few pounds to lose. Because those few pounds do not make her who she is. Make her strong and fierce and wonderful by telling her. Just tell her. Every day. Every minute until she really, truly believes it. Because the outside world is full of messages that will tell her the opposite.
Make her believe. Make her see. Make her understand what an amazing human being she is. Help her understand that women are a force to be reckoned with. Imagine what it would look like if all women understood how beautiful they are. If we didn’t allow society to tell us that we are less. If we scoffed at the magazine covers and laughed in the face of anyone who tried to make us feel inferior. Just imagine how impossible it would be to stop us and all we can do. Imagine.
Believe this about yourself, and believe this about your daughter.
Tell her. Just tell her. Every day.