Guys, I have to be honest. Teasing and joking around can be a fantastic thing… IF used appropriately. But the first message you send to a woman online should NEVER be based on teasing her about something she said in her profile unless you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the woman receiving your message will understand and appreciate your humor. And what are the odds of that with a perfect stranger via instant message or email?
Communicating online is great, but teasing often just does not usually translate well.
Case in point:
(And no, I did not make this up. This is an actual message I received from some guy)
You’re adorable! I’m adopting you as my little sister so we can drink kool-aid and climb trees.
Afterwards we can star in a commercial about how awesome adoption is and you can give a really sad face to the camera but then I come around the corner with a pitcher of koolaid and your smile turns into a party 😉
Teasing aside, you have a wonderful profile!
Seriously?? What am I even supposed to do with a message like that? What exactly do I respond with?
Online dating lesson:
Be straight forward, open and honest. Don’t tease. Until a woman gets to know you and she understands your teasing ways, it’s probably best to avoid it.